How would you rate your mental strength on a scale from 1-10? If the number is less than 10, then there is room for improvement. There is a battle that goes on within the mind on a daily basis. Your ability to regulate your emotions, manage your thoughts, and behave positively plays a factor in your mental strength. The mind is a muscle just like your arms or legs. Muscles require exercise and strength training to get stronger. There is good news in this. You have been exercising your mind if you’ve been consistently reading our Blimidh emails.
Today’s email will look at 3 things mentally strong people don’t do.
“Always remember, you have within you the strength, the “Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.”
– Brene Brown
1. Feel sorry for themselves
Even while sadness is a natural and healthy feeling, dwelling on your grief or tragedy can be harmful to your health. Whatever the issue, remember that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. It’s important to remember that sadness is a natural part of life, and grief is normal, but comparing yourself to others is destructive. Get in the habit of exchanging it for gratitude. Look for the small pleasures in life that you may take for granted and attempt to increase your sense of thankfulness.
Quick Bonus Fact – A 2003 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that people who feel gratitude don’t get sick as often as others.
2. Give their energy to things they can’t control
There is always someone we believe is working against us. The feeling is unavoidable, but it is unhealthy to devote time and energy to nurturing negative emotions towards others. Ultimately, you’re the only one who will get hurt.
Some common problems associated with trying to control everything are increased anxiety, a waste of time and energy, ruined relationships, judging others harshly, and unnecessarily blaming yourself for everything.
Learn to let certain things go. Understand that some things are just beyond your control. Holding on sometimes hurts more than letting go. If you’ve exhausted all possible options to get something to work your way and it doesn’t, it would be unreasonable, unhealthy, and unwise to keep at it.
3. Try to please everyone
It is good to have a pleasant personality, but attempts to be a nice person can backfire when your behavior crosses over into people-pleasing. People–pleasing can take severe tolls on your life and make it impossible to reach your true goals.
You shouldn’t strive to develop a reputation as someone who can always meet other people’s needs. Learn to say no. There are always people who are almost impossible to say no to; you always want to give them what they want, when they want it, which can inflict severe mental, emotional and physical strains. Everyone cannot like you, and you shouldn’t try to be liked by everyone, as you’d be slaving away for the rest of your days. You are not responsible for other people’s feelings; instead, focus on pleasing yourself and the individuals who are important to you.
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